‘Tis the season to be jolly. Remember jolly? Or are we all still bogged down in the pile of worries? It can be hard to emerge from for a myriad of reasons. One of the biggest might be an unexpected Life Restart.
I’ve been there of course. I actually wrote a book on it!
But as I journeyed through my first and second holiday seasons as a newly single person, I had to recalibrate my thinking. That meant focusing on what was good in my new life, instead of what was wrong.
Or what was missing. Worse, what old traditions would I no longer partake in?
The answer is to update all of that. There are plenty of fun things to do with friends. Groups of people that you hang with instead of being alone in your memories. Make new ones!
I’ve been to the Twinkle Tunnel at the Zoo when it’s all lit up for the holidays! Who knew? I’ve been caroling with a group of friends. I’ve wrapped gifts for needy kids and their families. Been part of both a shoe drive and a food drive. All meaningful, useful activities.
One thing I know about life is, it’s not all about me.
Focusing on others has been helpful to my mental state and my general sense of who I can be in the world. Someone who brings joy. As the song says. Doing this takes practice when you’ve been down in the dumps. But please jump out of there as soon as you are able. Be the Santa instead of the Grinch. It’s time!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!