After becoming a Leftat50, it is easy to routinely answer the “How are you?” question with the slight smile followed by “Ok.” Ladies, you are not living a 2-letter life!
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It’s nice to bask in that sense of relief. It’s a clearing of the chaos plaguing your life for so long. In the silence of your new days and nights, things may still crop up. No longer in shock, you can start to hear your emotions. All of them. Of course, there are many. This was your life that has changed so drastically. Take a breath and maybe a short vacation, or a spa break. Because there is still work to be done.
The term, “Getting your bearings” is a bit misleading. It infers that all at once in a millisecond it all comes together and we are fine. In most cases, that’s simply not true. Just as the unravelling was a process, so is the getting your bearings part.
When crazy actions become normal every day goings on, guess what: it’s over. Ladies, believe me when I tell you how SLOWLY the crazy creeps…
Don’t prove your fears right! It doesn’t have to be that way. Because you can’t go on living like that day in and out, year in and year out. That is not a life that you deserve.
Once you are left after a long marriage, an interesting new activity occurs for the first time in your adult life: Finding your own things…