In the sadness of your solitude, there will one day come a lifting up. I used to live on the edge of a forest and I’d look up at the sky and often would spot a hawk. This bird has a huge wingspan, which allows it to find a breeze and ride it effortlessly, for a really long time. I would look up in awe, wondering how they knew instinctively, to simply spread their wings, trusting they were in a breeze that could carry them. Of course, if they never had the faith to spread their wings in the first place, this miracle of nature simply could not happen.
It was instinctual for them to trust that if they expanded their eighteen inch wingspan, they would be supported. This support meant they could look down to the forest floor for their next meal. Their nourishment. Some animal they could catch that would be their survival for that day only. I would see them overhead, flying with a mouse or some other small animal in their beaks. It was primal. And tomorrow, they must ride the wind again, for their very lives.
As we go on as women of a certain age, do we ever scour the landscape for what can nourish us on a daily basis? If we did, would we feel guilty for taking what we need to remain strong? We needn’t feel that way.
There is no way to take too much when it comes to our survival. But for some reason, women often feel they are being greedy if they practice doing just for themselves.
Think about it. What other creature on this Earth decides not to do what they must to simply survive? That is not even in their DNA. Survival is everything. When you feel that focusing on your own needs is not worthwhile, I urge you to realize you are part of nature. A creature with an instinct for self-care.
Not just of the basic needs variety. I am urging you to spread your wings. If you were to ride the wind of this part of your life, where would you want it to take you? What would be your ultimate freedom inducing life choice?
Even in the midst of a pandemic, we cannot contract. We must expand our lives. This shutdown though confining, can also be a time to cut yourself loose from the day-to-day constraints that hold you back. Do you want to take an online singing lesson? Do it! Who the heck is ever gonna know?
I am in the market for a ukulele. There’s no reason why I can’t learn how to play one. It would make me happy and it’s an instrument that doesn’t cost that much or take up lots of space. What is your ukulele? In an odd way, this isolation can be an expansion! Because we can live privately, without judgment. The only one criticizing you is you. Reach out into this online world. Educate yourself, or expand your knowledge in something you’ve always wanted to know more about. “Travel!” Every place on Earth can be found and experienced, albeit in a non-sensory way.
But we must not stop living. We must do what we can. Our hearts still need to soar on the breeze that is waiting to take us.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!