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Hey Men, Guess What? We aren’t Going To Change For You

I’m sick of men asking me to change to accommodate them. They refuse to change one iota. “Well, this is just how I am. You must accept this.” Yet they always suggest and suggest and suggest (which is really a demand) changes for me. Cause, you know, I’m dying to hear their woman-improvement suggestions. (So empowering! Isn’t it Ladies?”) Guess what? I’m a person of a certain age too. This is who I am. How about you accept who I am? And love me for who I am?

The way you expect me to accept you for who you are? With no changes. You love me with no changes. How about that?

Ha! That doesn’t happen.

I have never been in a scenario with a man where he did not expect me to change in some way.

To make subtle suggestions about what I weigh, or what I wear. My hairstyle. “Maybe you should grow it out, cut it. Did you notice the grey is showing?”

Mighty Makeover King. Do tell. Am I wearing too much makeup? Or, not enough. Let it rip about what I eat, or don’t eat. The amount I eat. And my favorite, “How often are you working out?”

Thankfully, I don’t live inside their heads. Correct me if I’m wrong. (According to men, I usually am.) But wouldn’t men be insulted if we made these cracks to them? “Hey Fatty, work out three times a week for an hour.” “Hey Fatty, stop eating burgers and fries and drinking beer.” They would never put up with it. Yet, they not even subtly say yucky things to us. Their expectation is we will hop to it with no objections.

Tell me this Ladies. Is there any hope that things could ever even out? Should men be allowed to continue to be sexist to us, so we can be sexy to them?

It is unfair and I am sick of it. I am fine the way I am. If I cannot find a man who loves me for the way I am while also expected to love his extra fifteen or thirty pounds then…

I’m done with it.

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!

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