When a long-term relationship is ending, it is either awkward silences or angry conversations. Most of us want to avoid both. A myriad of emotions come at you after he walks out. Anger and hurt are just a few. Should we express each and every one of them? Most importantly, we must decide whether to have that final conversation with him or just let him go.
Is it really worth it to let it all out?
Letting it all out will likely cause more pain. Every gal will have her own way of handling this, but I decided after a few vain attempts, not to bother. No, “I deserve to know what happened” or “Are you sure this is what you really want” or “Won’t you even try counseling” came out of my mouth. These notions stuck in my mind for a few months. But I realized he was never going to tell me the truth. Why bother listening for more lies? Then magic happened. All those once-important notions disappeared. Vacated from my conscious! A joy I never could have expected came over me.
This may not be everyone’s experience, but perhaps it’s worth a try. Letting him go forever allows you to begin your New Now. You deserve that! Moving on to a happier, more fulfilling relationship with yourself will yield a point of view on the split you never expected. Suddenly and with ease, you will begin to make all kinds of changes! It is so freeing!
Do what you love, not what you think you have to do.
Don’t let the sadness weigh you down. Feel the feelings and let them go! We will have new, contented feelings in a life free of conflict. Positive emotions will come to the forefront. Now is the time to fill ourselves back up with the experiences we need to begin again.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!