When a long term relationship is ending, it is either awkward silences or angry conversations. Most of us want to avoid both. A myriad of emotions come at you after he walks out. Anger and hurt are just a few. Should we express each and every one of them? We must decide whether to have that most likely final conversation with him, or to just let him go.
Is it really worth it to let it all out?
Letting it all out will likely cause more pain. Every gal will have her own way of handling this, but for me I decided after a few vain attempts, to let it go. No, “I deserve to know what happened” or “Are you sure this is what you really want” or “Won’t you even try counseling” came out of my mouth. These notions stuck in my mind for a few months, but I let them go without acting on them. Then magic happened. They all floated out of my conscious! A joy I never could have expected came over me.
This may not be everyone’s experience, but perhaps it’s worth a try. Letting him go forever allows you to begin your New Now. And you deserve that! Moving on to a happier, more fulfilling relationship with yourself will yield you a point of view on the break up you never expected. Sizing yourself up, you will begin to make all kinds of changes! It is so freeing!
Do what you love, not what you think you have to do.
Don’t let the sadness weigh you down. Feel the feelings and let them go! It is springtime and the caterpillars of contempt have become the butterflies of Bravo! Here we go into a life all aflutter with the expectation that it’s all going to be okay. Every aspect of ourselves. We survive. We thrive and most importantly, we are so alive. New positive emotions are what we express. Holding nothing negative in anymore, we feel ready to fill ourselves back up with the experiences we need to grow. So consider letting it go. All of it. Begin again.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!