After being left at 50, you may feel a sense of being homesick for the place you haven’t been to yet. That familiarity of Home used to be felt in the place you lived with your Ex. It was your home in more ways than merely being two people and one roof. Now that the place you live is just you, the comfort of home seems to be missing.
Rebuilding that place in your heart is how that feeling can be rekindled. Not the easiest of tasks when still licking the wounds around it.
It’s time to pull those bandages off your hurt heart. Let her feel again by allowing the healing to happen.
When I was hurting about what had happened, the betrayal, and all of that, I admit there was a part of me that didn’t want my heart to heal. “Not so fast, ” I told it. “I deserve to feel wounded after what he did to me. Let me have my pain and feel it too damn it!”
It’s all part of the process of working through the hurt.
But The Hurt Hotel is not the place that will ever feel like home. So my advice is, don’t take up a permanent residency there!
Feel the hurt and get out. Pain and pleasure are both intense emotions. And we think we all would love our lives to be pleasurable every single second. But seriously, would you want to live in a spa every day for the rest of your life? Just relaxing music, chimes, massages, herbal teas, and saunas? Bor-ing.
These two spectrums of emotions have their places in our lives, but we control how much of each we can stand. Then we have to get out of there and step into real life. I’m advising you to do that as soon as possible. Check out of the Hurt Hotel. The amenities are awful to be sure. When you do that your new life will not be stained by the echo of your old life. There will be a cozy fireplace and snugly blankets and nurturing of yourself in this new place. This hearth in your heart. Where there is love and comfort and gentleness and fun and a sense of really being home. Now that is cause for giving thanks!
Bake the turkey! Glaze the yams, and check into your Happy Hotel!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together! And check out my book, “Restarting Your Life When You Are. No Longer A Wife” I wrote it just for you!