Are you carrying a ring of keys that don’t belong to any doors?
I was with someone for a quarter of a century. During that time, we went from a studio apartment to a one-bedroom apartment, to a two-bedroom condo that we rented, to several different homes, two of which we owned.
When I sold my first home, I kept the keys. It was my first home and I wanted to keep those keys because they symbolized that achievement. When I bought my second home and then moved out, I kept the keys for a bit. But because this was the house we broke up in, it seemed weird to hold onto a ring of keys that definitely didn’t open any doors, and that symbolized an ending and not a beginning.
So, if you are carrying a real or emotional ring of keys that don’t fit any doors, it’s time to let them go. They are excess baggage you no longer need to carry. These emotional elements weigh you down. Sometimes we don’t even realize it. Once you mentally get into this territory you may discover a host of keys you can drop forever.
Are you carrying the key that’s the relationship you had with a parent as a child? That one needs to go. How about the key to an old friendship whose door is no longer opened to you? Adios to that awkward one.
These days the only key I never let go of is the one to my own heart. I am the only person with that key now. I have no problem with that. Now and then I open her up and see what’s glowing inside. I tend that glow a bit, smile and turn the key.
If you are finding yourself emotionally keyed up and can’t discover the source, I would take a few quiet minutes and think about what keys you still carry that are not needed. Lighten your load and focus less on who locked you out and more on the joy of deciding exactly who and when you may be letting someone in. If that’s what makes you happy.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!