Are you stuck in the web of your past relationship? Even though the Ex is long gone? Why are you stuck, you wonder? I want to be free of the past, but I wake up each morning with it still in my head. His voice. The fights. The first date. The last thing he said to you.
All of it is still tangled in the web we are stuck in. Oh my. Why are we doing this to ourselves?
If we can keep ourselves stuck, we can also set ourselves free. Why aren’t we doing that? Wing-spreading! World-touring! Out and about, laughing and eating and dancing and looking fabulous?
Why? Oh, girlfriends, I’ve been there and I am about to tell you why. Fear. It’s fear. Even though we dream of new lives and new experiences we are living in a very different world than the one that existed when we got into the relationship. All those decades ago. Think of all the things that no longer exist. Newspapers. Landlines. Disco. You get the idea.
But guess what, my sweet, lovely, Lefat50’s? Do you know what still exists? You! Yep. With all of the flaws, you may focus on. Grey hair. A weird mole. Shoe inserts. You still exist, and the challenge before you is to free yourself.
From self-judgment. From the sadness of the breakup. Most importantly, from your own self-criticism. Look, we live in America. Where every other commercial is for a wrinkle cream, a self-tanner, or a frickin’ gym membership. We choose none of them. Yet, they affect us.
Because we live in a society and culture that says we have no right to look our damn age! Screw that. I am telling you. If you have to turn off every commercial for the next year to believe you are awesome exactly as you are, then do that.
I am sick to death of the term “anti-aging” anything. What are they talking about? The minutes, hours, and days are still ticking by. Therefore, that concept is literally impossible. Let’s embrace the truth. Every human being’s days are numbered. By what? None of us knows. We are merely humans. Living our lives the best way we know how to.
Why are we stopping ourselves? Because our hearts are recovering from being frickin’ shattered by the man we trusted the most. But here at Leftat50, we are not alone anymore. We can share our hopes and dreams. Without judgment. We can make a plan. To travel. Take that dance class. Get laid. (Yeah, I said it!)
I know you don’t know me in person. But I am not yanking your chain when I say that you are awesome! Honor that! I know you deserve all the best things life has to offer. Please, un-web yourselves. Believe me, it’s not normal to hang out in there for years and years. I did it. I know.
Truly, I hope this helps. Please keep me posted.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!