In the ensuing years after a breakup, you get used to being alone. You become idiosyncratic. I don’t know if it’s from the pandemic or living by myself. for the past several years. Whatever it is, I’ve become set in my somewhat quirky ways.
Am I going to find a man who wants to sleep under my weighted blanket? Or is that going to be a nightly tussle? Am I gonna find someone who likes to watch what I like to watch on TV? He’s not gonna want to sit through Grey’s Anatomy marathons with me.
And he’s going to have his own not-fun-to-deal-with stuff. His relatives, ex-wives, medication, dietary wants, needs and sensitivities. It’s going to be perhaps too big of a learning curve for two people in their sixties to get through. For both of us.
I mean I have one friend who met someone recently and married him. They seem to be doing okay. They’ve been happily traveling the world. We’ll see how it goes. You know, once they’re back home living day-to-day the way married people do. Settled in for the long haul. I’m not wishing them, not well. Not in the least! Happiness still has to be a possibility for all of us right?
But what might that look like for this Left at 50?
I’m just saying I may be past the point. I may be a “non-coupler,” and I may be perfectly fine with that. Do I need someone listening to me singing in the shower?
In this, my sixth decade do I really want to pick up socks and underwear? Take suits to the dry cleaners? Hear about long-standing family feuds? No, I do not.
As the pandemic drags on, I’ve found myself doing well. I’m enjoying myself a lot actually, albeit in different ways then those pre-Covid days. Perhaps this has colored my outlook. They are saying this pandemic will most likely be around all next year. That may be playing a role in my staying single state of mind. How about you? Are you coupled up this holiday season? And if not, are you okay with it?
Once you reach your fifties and sixties and beyond, there is no wrong way for a woman to live. There’s only your way. Remember that. And Happy Holidays!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!