Still having weep-fests and don’t know why? There is an answer. It came to me after a few hundred buckets had been filled. It’s short and clear:
Each tear that falls, is a dream deferred.
This means you may be thinking those are buckets of break-up tears. But there comes a point where the shock/pain tears end. That’s when the realization/pain begins.
What’s the realization/pain? That many dreams have been deferred and now you certainly are too old to attain them. My dear Leftat50’s, we are so alike! Because we are so wrong! But it’s a good kind of wrong. Read on.
It was with supreme trepidation that I gathered up those spilled dreams and started acting on them. Some were so coated in dust, that they were almost hidden! Determination is what swept the dust away. That, and the whole “deciding not to be afraid anymore” thing. I also realized that I learned to manage burnout symptoms so I could move past them.
When I chose to act on those dreams, the fear dissipated.
When notions became a reality, certain long-held beliefs fell away. I now refer to them as “the cant’s.” With age comes wisdom, and it became apparent that not all of those dreams were a good fit for my life anymore. Acting upon the ones that were, the real gut-check dreams, helped restore faith in myself. That is what my Ex really took when he left me at 50.
However, once the man who kept stomping my heart was gone, a new dream-maker started to grow inside of me. Another never-in-a-million-years unexpected perk!
If you are still using up too much Kleenex, it’s okay. Look at what’s really happening in every corner of your psyche. I bet you find you are not as wounded as you think. Merely learning about mindfulness for stress and anxiety will help. Create a mental health self-care routine. Soon you’ll realize you’ve gone from being a Wife to being your own Fairy Godmother! All you need to decide is which dream you want to become a reality first.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through the Leftat50.com website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together! And check out my book, “Restarting Your Life When You Are. No Longer A Wife” I wrote it just for you!