An unraveling relationship is like shoe laces that won’t stay laced.
I have this pair of sneakers and they have impossibly long shoelaces. I’m forced to double-tie them and inevitably, every time I’m out walking, my left shoe always unties! At least twice. I must stop, bend down and re-tie it.
Now, I have several choices of how to make this very annoying occurrence stop. Forever. One is to find shorter shoelaces. The other is to cut the laces. But we all know what happens when we do that. They start to unravel and then you are dealing with the look of loose threads that you have to keep cutting all of the time.
Or you could abandon these kicks altogether and buy new shoes. For some reason, I have still not acted upon any of those choices.
Some days I step on the damn loose shoelace and render myself off-balance. And that is my own weird way of being. Even though I am supremely annoyed, I have done nothing to change the situation. Including simply not wearing these shoes that I know are going to untie.
That is how I was at the end of my relationship. You know? I didn’t do anything to change the untenable situation. I didn’t cut the ties. I didn’t walk out and find myself a new “pair.” I froze and took no action.
Even though I could have. I had choices and I chose none of them. Then, I took the big fall I knew had been coming. So beware if you are in that situation. You must make a choice! Or else eventually, you are going to trip up.
Change your situation. Change your life. Now, if you will excuse me, I have some unlacing and re-lacing to do. With shorter shoelaces. Simply writing this, I have shamed myself into changing my ways to make life easier!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!