There are so many articles urging women to be their own Harshest Critic. To constantly take hard, long looks at themselves and criticize their lot in life. The whole, “You made your bed, now lay in it” notion.
Isn’t life hard enough for women? Don’t we find ourselves constantly compared to other women? And to other men? Oh, and to younger women? Oh, and to older women?
Stop comparing me. Let me be me. Constantly suggesting women criticize themselves is such a harsh prescription for a happy life. With Covid-19, global warming, and all the rest, must I point a finger and scold myself for not doing enough on every level of life even when there is so much out of my control?
I am speaking for all of us.
These are not convenient excuses to avoid doing more. There are other ways of motivating ourselves, so I am here, today, floating this notion: What if you were your Nicest Critic?
One that acknowledges accomplishments and outcomes already achieved that went beyond your wildest dreams? There is nothing like a positive look back to motivate ourselves to move forward. More like a, “Look what you achieved in the midst of a dreadfully unhappy marriage? Just imagine what you can do now!”
That type of thing. Maybe a day off of all electronics and emails could be a good motivator, for instance. Declutter all of the “E-Clutter” and set your mind free. Sounds gloriously fun, right? Leave time and space in our psyches to motivate ourselves and see if gradually we get our mojo back after this weird half a year or so we’ve done our best to cope with.
We Leftat50’s are experienced with restructuring our lives during and after upheavals. This one no one saw coming, but we’ve gathered our strengths and settled into a new pace for our lives that is realistic given this truly awful pandemic. Let’s not be our harshest critics. Let be our best motivators and encouragers. Surely that will lead us to our next satisfying, reachable, life goals.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!