When doctors try to save a life, they take extraordinary measures. When a marriage is worth saving, a couple will mutually decide to take some as well: counseling, trial separation, group therapy, etc.
But many times the relationship is taken off life support without both parties being consulted. They just “call it” without even checking for a pulse.
When a marriage is gasping, it means neither party wants to clear the air (way). Therefore, the conversation that needs to be had never takes place. One person catches their breath and uses this renewed ability to just run away! They say “Adios” to the partner who has had the wind knocked out of them.
They are so unethical!
Without turning back, they yell over one shoulder, “You are no fun! Your discomfort, caused by my actions, makes me uncomfortable! So, if you don’t mind, (Or even if you do) I’d rather run then try and help you through it!
“Later!” I mean, “Never!”
You are left to eat their dust. To stare up at the ceiling in shock for a day or a week or months. Somehow you must figure out how to recover.
It is then you realize that your husband is not your healer. His motto is: “First, Do Some Harm.”
Let’s name it his “Hypocritical Oath.”
Luckily, we Leftat50’s are resourceful. We quickly learn the art of “Self Resuscitation.” It serves us well as we continually save our own lives, one extraordinary measure at a time.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!