When the dust of the break-up ends with all physical objects split up, donated, sorted and labelled, there is a sense of accomplishment. It’s nice to bask in that sense of relief. It’s a clearing of the chaos plaguing your life for so long.
In the silence of your new days and nights, things may still crop up. No longer in shock, you can start to hear your emotions. All of them. Of course, there are many. That was your life and it has changed drastically.
Of course you are feeling things. Take a breath and maybe a short vacation, or a spa break. Because there is still work to be done.
It’s time to clean up your emotional household. That place you have stored the myriad of emotions so you could just get through each day of the Ending. Leaving those emotions there is not healthy. Looking at them as relics you want to hold onto as reminders of what your Ex put you through will not help you heal. Take it from me. I wanted to cling to my memories of the late nights wondering where he was. Of his inability to look me in the eye.
The things that hurt your heart have got to go. There is the expression, “A dagger to the heart.” Who would want to hold on to that?
To keep mulling it over and over, finding more hurt inside the hurt? This is why you have to thoroughly get rid of it. It doesn’t need to happen all at once. But I advise you not to drag it out either. Life will feel lighter and brighter. And we all deserve that!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!