Your Best Friendships are being celebrated on Best Friends Day. If your longtime marriage has ended, then the Newly Single You must anoint some other human with the moniker of best friend.
There may be many options of a female or male Best Friend currently in your new life. Perhaps the two of you will hang-out today. Shared memories will be reminisced. Laughs and tears and maybe a toast to each other will be lifted.
And then you will go home alone. To your new place which is part of your new life. It’s a space once occupied by two people, the place you used to call home. Before the lies and pain and divorce. Whatever the reasons your marriage ended at Mid-Life, your Ex’s betrayals were not the actions of a “Best Friend.” So, thank God that part of our lives is over with.
Therein lies a less then celebratory emotion for many of us Leftat50’s. A lot of us have lost our lifetime “Besties.” They’ve moved on to the next plane of existence so the raising of the glasses to old memories will not be happening for us.
The recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain has led me to reveal to you that I have lost BOTH of the humans I referred to as my “Best friends” to suicide.
First there was my dear friend Wendy whom I met way back in Chicago in the ’80’s. We were best friends for sixteen years before she made her sad decision. That was on June 12, 2001.
On May 23, 2008, my friend Gerry whom I’d met in college and was a dear friend for 24 years, made his sad decision to leave this Earth.
Both Wendy and Gerry were my best friends. They are both gone now. There has been no other human on Earth that I have met since their passing that I have assigned the title Best Friend to. I’ve faced some lonely Sunday nights wanting to call each of them as the years have passed. But on this Best Friends Day, I, like many of you I am sure, must go on. I know my dear friends reached a point where life was just too much for them. I accept their sad decision and pray that others will not feel a need to go down that path.
You are all of my Best Friends. I am yours. Let’s hold hands and stick together.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!