Are you actually crumbling?
We all experience days when we still feel our lives are crumbling. It’ll be “one of those days” when something will set us off and for no discernible reason, it feels like everything is falling apart. Even when there may be zero evidence.
And yet. There is this sadness.
A stone in the pit of our stomachs. And we KNOW what it is. We’ve felt it many times in the past. It is the “What the hell happens now?” stone. That. Self. Doubt. (Our silent scream).
We think we can’t tell anyone. Leftat50’s that it’s a lie.
Just like stories we told ourselves at the tail end of that cruel, cruel, relationship. The one we still cannot believe we endured.
But this time it’s different. Because you don’t have to plaster on a fake smile. There are a myriad of choices. Live in it if you need to, or call a dear friend and vent. Or write about it in that journal. Pick the reddest pen ever and cram those words on a page to stop them from darkening your soul.
Days like these are normal! In fact, you wouldn’t be a healthy human if they weren’t. You don’t have to stomp them down. Or feel “less than.” Those are negative words he threw at you. They linger there still, like hieroglyphics in an ancient, abandoned cave. But not for long.
If tears flow, it’s normal. If self doubt freezes you, it will pass. These feelings are merely vestiges of the woman you became because you were with him. The last few months of the marriage were unmentionable to the general public. A painful heart secret you shared with only a few. There is no reason not to share your “What the hell happens now?” feeling with anybody who will listen! Because it is more universal than you think.
Every human has walked through a scary change in their life that somehow turned out not just “okay” but a million times better than they ever could have imagined.
All of you reading this are going to be so much more than “okay.” Those once static lives are on the move. For once and always, the real You is back. Say “Hello!” You’ve missed each other.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end. Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!