A couch on a curb. A sink on a front lawn. When something that is always inside is suddenly outside, it is horribly out of place. How did that TV set end up in the gas station parking lot we wonder as we walk by. How long is it going to lay there on its side? Who’s job is it to take it somewhere?
The shoe in the middle of the highway. A dresser on a front porch. After being left, we often feel out of place. It seems weird to attend a wedding by ourselves. A party. A movie. Such feelings can lead us to believe that we are “inside things.”
Being walked out on after a long relationship definitely messes with a person’s psyche. Our view of the outside world is through our cracked-heart glasses.
But I assure you, things are not what they seem to be to you. Because right now, you are beyond hurt. We are living in the Devastation Zone. All of the sudden, everything seems new. But in a bad way. Devastation can make us believe that somehow we are marked. That when we step out into places where there will be new people, somehow “they know.” They know that we were left for a newer model. They know we spent a lot of time on the floor sobbing. That we have felt like shells, zombies, dragging ourselves around and calling it a life.
Going to movie theater alone, we see a married couple and decide the wife must be thinking, “That poor woman. She obviously has no one in her life.” Then they snuggle closer to their husbands. Why do any of us think we know what others are thinking the second they glance at us?
WE are the ones looking at the outside world through our Poor Me glasses! Regular people cannot fathom this crazy notion!
Don’t let your “Sunday mornings with tea and a good book” become every day of your week!
No matter how weird it feels, go to that book signing on a Tuesday night that seems kinda far away! Go to that concert at your church on Friday!
Next time you hesitate on the way out the door, remember: The only person seeing you as the shoe in the highway is you. When the only thing that should be laying on that road, is a pair of cracked heart glasses…
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!