When a long-term relationship is ending, life is a maze. Surrounded by walls we can’t see over becomes commonplace. Stressed about what’s around every future life corner, we stay put.
In the pain, the tears, the grief. Living, in The End, is not Living. Soon, we realize that no matter the trepidation, we must move on. We cannot live alone in the maze, frozen.
Before we know it, we’ve turned a corner. This forward motion causes us to keep moving. Once out of the corner and around the bend, we feel like exploring more. We become confident, leaving our fear in the corner.
When you find yourself stuck, don’t be your worst critic. These are normal phases. Even when our hearts aren’t feeling betrayed. It is Life being Life.
I am speaking to you from my own journey. I used to wake up with a cloudy feeling in my head. Having no idea what to do, I’d watch TV for a while, then do some dishes. The Inner Forward Momentum I’d always taken for granted had left me. “What the heck should I be doing today?” I’d ask myself with a stomach filled with panic.
If you are feeling this, don’t get too comfortable with it. Yes, for some of us there’s a weird comfort in the panic. This is due to the emotion we’d been living in all the years we knew the marriage was over.
Slowly, I realized the everyday joy I could gift myself. The gift of simplicity. Afternoon naps with my dog, stupid comedy films, even going to a Butterfly House! These were the days worth living.
Stop thinking the lack of constant conflict wasn’t the life you deserve. Release the burden and accept the Gift of Simplicity!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!