Are you living with the roots of your past?
I needed to cut down a sick tree once. It was listing due to inner weaknesses. Creaking when the wind blew. It had to go.
At great expense, it was cut down until all that remained was the ground level stump. Underneath it were roots that reached underground. The unseen roots that were still reaching down trying to feed the tree that was gone.
I was thrilled my view was vastly improved…on the surface.
I share this story because in many ways, it represents me. My life. Thoughts in my head. And soul.
When others see me now, they see a face cleared of my past relationship woes. He is gone. My view really is clear. And I am grateful. So grateful that I see my future over that hill that’s now in the clearing of my mind.
Then there’s that root problem. Battling my psyche to forget the past. Those memories that still linger beneath the surface. Those long roots; twenty-four years of them.
That’s a lot of clearing still to do. To become unanchored.
My sunny psyche then steps in and reminds me how I finally got rid of that actual stump and company.
Deep holes were drilled into it, and some type of chemical was put there. Over time, the stump and it’s roots were gone!
This is the part of the break-up I know many of us are at. We ARE making new lives for ourselves. We do see future goals and dream. We wake up every morning with fresh eyes that welcome the day.
But my dear Leftat50’s (or 40’s or 60’s!) if there are some old roots anchoring you in some way, now is the time to disengage yourself from them. In whatever way you need to.
I’m just sayin’.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!