Trivial matters. It seems this phrase has two meanings. In my controlling head, I think trivial matters are of the utmost importance, and if I can just accomplish all of these trivial things each day, my anxiety will go away.
Until the next day, when there are more trivial matters that I can attend to to get that sense that all is well. Because all of the dust on all of the shelves is gone. The hamper is empty and the rotting food has all been discarded from the fridge, and even the shelves inside it have been wiped clean! No more dribbles of yogurt in my fridge, yessiree bob!
Is this my life?
No, doing these tiny things in my apartment that no one but me knows about is NOT the way to move my life forward. Because these are Trivial Matters. By their very nature they do not matter – at all!
I’ve been trapped in the web of my trivial matters and I need to crawl out of that sticky, confining place, “The Chore Trap” and see what happens.
So goodbye trivial matters that do not matter! Today I break my bonds of you. So I may step out into my life and find the Big things.
The goals, the love, the breeze on my face that dries my tears. All the tears I secretly shed as I attended to my trivial matters.
I know the farther I get away from the crumbs on the counter, the more alive I will feel, and the more I will have to share with the world. The Entire Crumbly World, where I will find my place and come to understand exactly why I matter!
Are you attending to trivial matters? I urge you to stop whatever it is that “must get done” today. I assure you, no one cares but you and you are merely distracting yourself from starting your life today. And life is short. So let the pants be un-ironed. And let the broiler have some burnt food on it. And let the crumb tray of your toaster be crummy today, so your life isn’t!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!