Immediately after you are left, there are so many life choices in front of you, that it can be paralyzing. For me, it was like I entered an elevator that someone unknown to me was operating. I was stuck in there, going from floor to floor. Endlessly. With no way of ever getting off. Cause I couldn’t. Besides, I didn’t want to know what floor I was on. I. Wasn’t. Ready.
Traveling to Nowhere on that elevator, alone with my thoughts. “I couldn’t get off here,” “I should get off there, for sure.” “But what if that’s the wrong floor?” “I mean, what’s on that floor.” Everything was unknown and unsettling.
Finally, I got up the guts and randomly picked a floor and stepped out. It took a lot of willpower to get out there. Looking back now, I realize I was stuck in my grief. And scared. Really, really, scared. That was why I couldn’t make a decision. Those first few weeks were a blur. A Hellish Blur.
It went from all those final months of, “Is this really. happening?” To “It happened, now what?”
But, as I’m sure you know, being emotionally distraught is exhausting. After awhile you have to choose to feel something else, anything else.
And you do.
I picked a floor, got off the elevator, browsed a bit, and got back on. I went from floor to floor in my New, Clear, Head. Guess what? There were wonderful things on every floor! I didn’t have to stress myself by figuring out everything I wanted to do every second of my life from Now until Forever. I could take my time. And I did. I needed to do that.
And so do you.
If you feel your life is stuck, or on an elevator that is out of your control, I urge you to pick a floor. Step out and see how you do. We have so many life decisions to make now, but we can try the things we are drawn to, each and every day, and stop questioning everything. That is what you did when you were in your old relationship. And those sad questions that had no answers.
You have the answers, even if you don’t think you do. Pick your own floor. Step out. It’s all waiting for you.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!