When you are hit with the unnatural disaster that is your Ex-Quake, your life feels crumbled. Then you cheerfully tell people you’ve settled on some new life path post disaster, and you know what happens? People say, “Don’t be rash.”
Why not? Why can’t we be rash?
Aren’t rash decisions, those split second ideas that you impulsively act on, the very ones that save people’s lives during disasters? I bet your rash decision could turn out to be the best decision you ever made when you look back on it.
Maybe, when all is said and done, that’s what being Left At 50 is. A rash decision by somebody else that changes our lives in ways we never anticipated.
Perhaps his spontaneous act of walking out the door, (or not so spontaneous as you may find out later) landed on your once battered heart and reshaped it. He most likely had been planning on leaving you for his young worshiper long before he bolted. That’s why he’s doing just fine.
But it was spontaneous to you, and that’s really all that matters, isn’t it?
The fact that you survived that episode, that Divorce Disaster you were not prepared for, has earned you the right to “rash-up” your decisions.
We all now live in a world where we are constantly being warned to plan for disaster.
I am now getting ALL of my disaster preparedness supplies together. Not just the kind I need in case of an earthquake, fire, or flood but also my emotional disaster preparedness supplies.
So, if another rash decision by some man I fall in love with is visited upon me, I will have my “batteries” (fortitude) my “water” (rejuvenation) and all of the emotional supplies I will need to sustain myself until the next “HIMicane.”
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!
Happened to me again..I realize it is not me. I am still the same kind, loving person I was before he left. Maybe I was too much for him…I don’t know, I am not the one who made the decision, I did not change. That’s fine, I will still be my awesome self, just doing it alone, but I am good with that too!