When I do Google searches to new websites, I often see the warning, “Not Secure” in the search bar. It’s telling me to proceed with caution. To get out of that site as fast as possible. It could be harmful to my computer or to my data, or God knows what. There are so many warnings in Internet Land and I try to heed them all. With all the breaching and compromising online, I no longer fail to heed warnings.
If only the Universe or Whatever Is Out There could warn all of us when we are with someone who is “Not Secure.” How much pain, heartache and other kinds of breaches that would avoid?
I’m not speaking about being “Insecure.” I mean those interactions with men that try to pin us down on the first date or are overly nosy. But with Covid, our interactions in public spots are severely diminished.
Thinking of meeting someone in person off an Internet site? Think if you googled him and saw, “Not Secure.” You could avoid dates with men who chew too loud or are bankrupt and pretending they can afford the sushi. Then they realize they “forgot” their wallet at home.
Feelings for the Vice President at your new gig who always gives you a big smile in the break room? Don’t go there. Not unless you know the true status of his personal life. If we could Google, “Is this man married and about to break my heart and make me lose my job?” “Not Secure!” could be the algorithm that saves our jobs and emotional stability.
I’m not some person who is constantly making poor life choices. But let’s face it, there are a million instances these days where danger lurks. I hate to live that way, with my senses on self-protection every time I step out my door. But with age comes reality. I don’t know how much time I have and I already wasted a quarter-century on the last dud. That pain hung around for years, so I am advising you to be safe but don’t lock yourself away. It’s simply not true that big girls don’t cry, so keep that old-fashioned antenna up. And stay in the secure zone in affairs of the heart.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!