When you are first left, it is difficult not to isolate. I had a bad case of the “what ifs.” I felt like I was driving around the world without a spare tire. Twenty-four-seven. If “this” happens, who do I call? I constantly kept a full tank of gas for fear I would run out of gas somewhere and just be stranded with no one to call. A dangerous stranger could stop. Who knows what could happen to me? And who would even know I was missing? I live alone now. It could be days, or weeks or months that I could be held underground by a madman.
I constantly worried about even little things. I restocked my medicine cabinet, so if I woke up with an errant bout of nausea, or fever, or broke a toe I would have that ace bandage, or painkiller or icepack at the ready. This is no way to live. You have to, at some point calm down. Living on high alert twenty-four-seven will be a major cause of burning yourself out. And when you burn yourself out and you are laying there in bed, you will maybe tell yourself. “See? This is too hard. I was right! ”
Don’t prove your fears right! It doesn’t have to be that way. Because you can’t go on living like that day in and out year in and year out. That is not a life that you deserve.
Take a vacation from “What if” Land. Permanently.
Your new life is your vacation from your old life. What if your new life is a blast? The new you attracts a plethora of fun people and experiences you never could have dreamt of. More than likely, that is exactly what is really going to happen to you. Let’s scrap the “what ifs” from your vocabulary and replace it with “I can’t waits.”
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!