Be careful out there Leftat50’s! Here we find ourselves now, “out there” in the world as singletons. I don’t know about you, but even years after being left, the whole dating process freaks me out. I truly do not want to put myself through it anymore. Because even the few dating experiences I’ve survived since being left have taught me an important lesson: Takers find Givers.
Beware. Takers are very slick. They’ve got their game faces on. They somehow know how easily they can get you to go “all in.” So the taking can begin.
I’m not necessarily talking about men who marry women after a three week courtship and spend away all their money. That happens all the time now. I’m talking about an emotional ownership that certain men want over us. And that is what we must be careful not to fall for.
So if you are out there on that first or second date, don’t go all in! Don’t offer yourself in any way other than the companionship of perhaps date two. Don’t get all “future talky.” Just have a nice time.
You may not realize you’re with a Taker on Date One though. I didn’t. My Taker took his sweet time to reel me in slowly. So slowly I didn’t notice how quickly I’d been hooked. And I stayed too long. And was completely fooled into believing that I was part of a couple!!
He was the wrong man at the right time.
I was finally ready to have a deep emotional connection. So ready that I didn’t notice how truly non mutual his feelings were.
The Giver found the Taker. Just think about that and be careful. Don’t be discouraged, just be aware. We haven’t been out there in awhile!!
Men are not all Takers. And if you find yourself on a date with A Giver, you will know that very quickly too. How wonderful it would be if every Giver ended up with a Giver!! It’s possible. It happens.
For now I choose to use my giving skills on the many people in this world who are sincerely in need. And I will take from that the great feeling of knowing that helping others also feeds my soul.
I have learned a life lesson from all if this. I think it’s kinda catchy so let me know what you think of it.
“If I’m Too Fast, I’m Gonna Be Furious.”
Catchy huh? My new dating motto. Feel free to use it too!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!