What we may not realize when big life changes occur, is that both our inner and outer worlds will change. The outer fundamental changes, i.e. Moving, dividing things up, etc. keep us in a state of melancholy confusion for months on end.
All those little decisions of “who gets what?” And “what goes where?” consume our minds.
And then that part of splitting up is over. When that happens, we may think,”well, that’s that.” We think we are through with the breakup.
Now in the new-silence of our well-ordered abodes, something more fundamental hits us.
“What does the “new-me” do now? I truly am not the same woman. I’m no longer a mate, a caretaker, the one who plans the parties with two sets of relatives.
Don’t freak out about that. I’m here to tell you that you will find a new role in your own life. And when it hits you just how many days, years, months of your life you’ve spent making everyone else happy, you will be thrilled it’s over. No more making sure they are impressed, happy and have nothing to complain or gossip about. You will feel unburdened.
You can use this new time in new ways. Enjoyable ways!
If your place seems too quiet, if it feels like your purpose has ceased to exist, I want you to get dressed up snd get in your car. Now. Drive somewhere that will give you a new life experience. See how rejuvenating that feels.
At first you might feel uncomfortable. You are not used to doing what you want to do.
Get used to it! Revel in it and soon you will think nothing of driving to a race track, or for a horseback riding lesson.
Get out there! The World has put out the Welcome Mat for you! Step on it and go out to a fabulous day!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!