😂Do you feel like you are still straddling a life-fence even years after being walked out on❓Have you not exactly started over❓Straddling is caused by self-doubt and it is also very frustrating. It’s shocking how many days and weeks and even years can go by where you remain undecided. A huge life decision was thrust upon you and your new life, though happier in many ways, is still somewhat of a daily mystery.
“Getting off the fence was difficult for me too. But I finally picked a side and hopped off.“
At first, it was like walking on a speedway. Everyone was passing me and disappearing into the unexplored horizon. You would think a go-getter like myself would’ve bought the life version of a high-end Porsche and hit the road with vim and vigor. You’d be wrong.
Zoom-zoom went the entire rest of the world. I watched it all from my fence-perch, pretending not to care.
If you are feeling this stock-stillness, I want you to know you are not having a breakdown or anything. We are not twenty anymore. We have lived through many traumas, answered a ringing phone to hear horrific news about a friend’s life, and reeled from hundreds of fights with the Ex. It’s tough out there. No matter what side you pick.
Stop fooling yourself by thinking you can’t get off unless you have a brilliant, life-changing idea. Like the people on Shark Tank. That’s when we will get off the fence. Leave us alone!
Keep reading this sentence: You already have one! You have a brilliant, life-changing idea. You know you do!
“Oh, Diane’s talking crazy today.
I’m not one of those people! Big huge life changing things only happen to other people. People who are smarter, luckier, younger than I. I am going to stay straddled to my life fence! I’m perfectly comfortable here.”
We know that’s a life-stagnating fib. But for some reason, it can feel comfortable for a very long time, even though it’s killing you.
That’s why you must take the scary step off the fence. That is not comfort, it’s not living life. You know that. You think about the things you’re dying to do all the time. So did I. That’s why I’m telling you that just picking a side is the most freeing thing you can do. Nerve-wracking? Yes. But I promise, as soon as you do it, you are going to feel so much better!
Besides, I know by now that your legs are cramping up. Your soul is cramping up. There’s only one thing to do. Get off the fence and walk it off. You’ll be speeding by before you know it!!!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!