Doing for others all the time may make you a nice gal, but it leads to self neglect.
After I was left, I realized among other things, that there were a lot of hours in a day. Filling those hours has led me on an exciting path of new experiences and meeting many new friends.
At fifty, I had the incorrect notion that every other woman my age was coupled up and busy. Truth was, those were the women I already knew. Fact is, there were tons of women I was yet to meet who would become major players in my life. For emotional support, for building out my social network in comfort and ease. These gals changed my mindset on my life situation drastically. But if I hadn’t made the conscious decision to rejoin the universe, I would never have met a single one.
That would’ve been a real shame. Not saying this is easy. Going up to new people in a new setting and starting a conversation. Like all things, the more I did it, the easier it became. Now it’s no big deal at all. Life lesson here? New experiences are only a big deal if you treat them that way. Maybe you don’t know where to start or where to go to expand your circle. I began signing up for lists on the internet of things that were going on in my area. There were so many lists of things to do for fun and for free that I had to delete some of them from my feed!
Right this second in California, there is a super bloom happening due to all the rain. Fields of blue wildflowers are beckoning my soul. Carpets of poppies await my footsteps. When I was stuck in that dark state with my Ex I had no “noticer.” My fun-starved eyes are ready to feast on a gorgeous array of blossoms.
Much like us Leftat50’s, several species of seeds wait underground for decades until their cue to sprout.
There was also that mental list of things I’d been wanting to do forever but always put off when I was still in the relationship. My world has expanded and I am an infinitely happier person because of it. That’s not to say that I never do anything for anybody else. It just means I must make time to expand my own life. Enjoying time with myself after all the years of aloneness and worry. Get out there today and find your bliss! Mental health days are a real thing, so don’t forget to put some on your calendar.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I must make my weekend plans by calling The Wildflower Hotline!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!