After the tears and heartache of the Biggest Breakup of My Life at the age of 50, I was determined to live in a new way. Not just relationship choices, (though I’m STILL not sure I’m ready for one of those), but the way I thought about my day-to-day life. I know what you’re thinking, “Change my way of thinking after all these years of being, well….me?” Yes. Exactly. Could changing the way I thought about my life actually create a more Smiley me?
Because as the post-breakup days stacked up, I realized not only was I free of that messed-up-marriage, but more amazingly, I was no longer either pining for my old life or terrified of my future. That was good, but I needed to truly make Each Day My Own Now.
A thought burst through the clouds. “What if I decided that today would be a perfect day?”
The co-worker whose guts I hate? I’m going to give her a big smile and say, “Good morning!” The piles of work on my desk? No biggie, I’ll do my best and get through it somehow. None of this can ruin my Perfect Day. I can choose to smile on the inside and act perfectly normal on the outside. No one has to know, so no one can spoil it or mock it or otherwise crap all over My Perfect Day.
Throughout the day, I must admit, I occasionally forgot for a sec and fell into Business as Usual Me.
But, I snapped myself back into Perfect Day thinking and I would instantly realize that I was Smiling to Myself! All the crabby, controlling, stressed out people around me had no effect on me. I didn’t REACT to them emotionally or otherwise. I just wore a sassy smile and had a Perfect Day!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!