“He just wasn’t your person,” people like to say when a relationship ends. Implying that there is still a My Person. He is “Out There” waiting to step into my existence and complete me. The Tender to all of my wants and desires. The Stoker of my inner flame. “What a glorious occurrence that will be” they love to tout. Like we are standing around in our lives, constantly looking through our pair of “boy-noculars” waiting for Mr. Myperson.
Leftat50’s, there is a very strong lesson Diane is going to lay down on you. You are your person. Not a brain surgeon in Armani who owns a yacht and a second home in Sicily. Not that there’s anything wrong with that! Deciding to look inside instead of outside right after a breakup is a healthy way to go. Advice to heed: It’s not going to appear that way at first. Life viewed through Tear Vision is not the clearest, but tears are necessary and there is every reason to shed them. There are many stages to grief and there is no reason to skip any of them.
There are also many stages of life. Humans don’t go from being four to forty in a week for good reason. Surprisingly a divorce enhances growth even though it feels like stagnation for a time.
Being Your Person is an evolution. From shock to hurt to adjustment to Self-Confidence to Satisfaction with life is a process. Mini-makeovers start happening all by themselves once healing takes ahold of the soul.
Regeneration cannot be stopped and bit by bit a woman who may have been calling herself divorced refers to herself as single! A woman who thought she was left, now knows with inner certainty that she’s been set free.
Mirrors don’t lie and reflections will reveal a light coming from within. Embrace it, settle into it because the fantastic realization is coming: your person is you. Introduce yourselves, step in to each other, and start tending to all of those wants and desires. Happy together as one.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!