Micro-Cheating is a term that means one partner is off with the opposite sex, not actually having sex, (yet) but doing other out of the ordinary things. It is a series of “micro” actions that seem harmless enough to their partner at first and arouse no suspicion.
When micro-cheating elevates to real cheating, the one who is cheated on has no clue. Until we do, of course.
The term micro-cheating makes me mad, sad, and also makes me laugh. Oh the lengths some people will go to begin the end of their marriage! Many of you know that when they leave you, their “micro-explanation” (my term for the one sentence I received before he walked out!) is that they “didn’t mean” to cheat. That it was something that “just happened” that they “didn’t see coming.”
Secret phone calls out of your earshot with this person, is micro-cheating. Constantly texting them and then erasing the thread is micro-cheating. Constantly checking their feed to see what they are “up to” is micro-cheating. Basically, it’s anything your spouse is doing behind your back. It’s their mini Secret Life. The one they do not want you to be a part of.
My experience was the two-hour long phone calls on a Sunday afternoon that were always out of earshot. The constant texting all day long. The going out to dinner with “a bunch of people” that I had never met.
Micro-cheating is the new version of “lipstick” on their collar due to an “innocent kiss.”
As you are reading this, there may be some hairs standing up on the back of your neck. Because you have experienced that, or you currently are. If so, it’s time to call them out on that behavior. If your relationship has already ended due to micro-cheating leading to the real thing, then you are a huge step ahead moving forward in your dating life.
Now I see that his micro-cheating went on for years. Because I have always had a lot of platonic male friends, I told myself it was good he had made a new friend in his late forties. Um, no. My platonic friends are men I have known for decades. They are married, they are Dads. I just couldn’t see it for a long time. When he finally told me it way past truth time. No surprises there. Honestly I wanted to kick myself for not knowing in advance that this new “friendship” would be the demise of our relationship. So, I’m passing on my truth to you and hope it saves you or some other fifty-something woman some heartache.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!