Is your heart unplugged? Are you looking for an instant love connection with the next man you meet? And then there isn’t one and you have to wait for another man? Another opportunity to plug in to that special someone? You know, the Man who will make you forget all about your Ex? The one who gets you on minute one? (Sparkle, sparkle, fireworks)
Um…in my experience as a gal of a certain (awesome!) age, that is an unrealistic first date expectation. And the First Date Male can sense it, trust me. It’s like you’ve shown up to the date wearing a cologne called “Love Me Now!”
I assure you he can smell it a mile away. I know because it goes both ways. I’ve met my share of First Date Men reeking of “I’m So Lonely” aftershave.
It’s a strong, appalling scent.
The good news is, you never have to be that person. Because if you are plugged in to what you really want, it’s okay if you realize your meet-up is Not-the-One-on-Minute-One. You can decide just to have a lovely evening with him. Because you have your self-assurance now.
You have stopped being plugged into the Horrible Relationship. And you are alight inside.
My Not-the-One-On-Minute-One dates became bearable when I decided to listen to this other human before me. To hear his story and maybe offer words of kindness or direction or strength. Because none of this is easy or perfect. Because when I’m plugged in to myself I don’t need for this to be The Greatest Date of My Life.
Even if some of you are currently in the thick of the ugly breakup, I know that between each tear lives a new self awareness.
And so do you!
So if you find yourself lonely, out-of-sorts and wanting to spend this entire weekend in bed, memorializing your horrible relationship, then think about what I’ve shared here. I hope you decide to be your own Love Connection in whatever way keeps you alight!
You have the power to turn the power on. Use it.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!