In my all female workout class, our teacher always tells us to “Make your noise!”. It seems that when you work out, if you grunt and groan while you are really working out, especially on your core, that release of air from your lungs in a forceful and loud way is really important in getting the most out of the class. I’ve taken this class for three years. I am still the only woman in that class that makes noise.
I am not kidding you.
I let it rip. The grunts, the groans, the whooshes, the yelps! And you know what? I get a lot of weird stares from the other gals in the class. This fascinates me. That even in a super-safe environment, where we are being encouraged to make whatever noise we want to, the others choose to remain silent. Even though it would help them get more fit.
I’m not judging in any way. I’m just observing this trend. At first, it was unnerving and I felt silly. But the instructor was making those noises. Big, loud, strong noises. And I wanted to be like her. She is not just our exercise instructor. She really is trying to teach us to let ourselves go. She’s even tried turning the lights out and putting on disco type lights and music to make it more fun.
“Make some noise!” “Your noise!” Silence.
All I can say is that one of the reasons I love going to class is that I can make these huge, loud noises and my teacher is so encouraging and happy for me. Where else in the world are women encouraged to make some noise?
Nowhere. We are always criticized for it. Even female tennis players who make noises when they serve are made fun of. It’s in our culture.
This is of course, merely a metaphor for so many things. I urge you, now that you are on your own, and setting your own path, to find your noise. Maybe it’s music, or woodworking, or cooking, or anything you can think of that brings you your bliss.
That is your noise.
In your relationship, you silenced so many parts of yourself. That is over. If this idea doesn’t speak to you right now, it’s okay. Just think about it. And for those of you keeping your hands over your own mouths in your own figurative way, I urge you to at least consider letting it rip. Whatever “it” is.
You have so much to give. To yourself and to the world around you. Now is not the time to be timid. Now is the time to raise your “voice” in the song of your spirit. That lovely song that lives inside of all of us. Let it out. Your spirit and the world will thank you. From your core.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!