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Stop Digging Through the Trashcan of Relationship Memories

It is tempting to have that trashcan overstuffed with memories and emotions sitting on your mental curb and not want to paw through it one more time.  (The hundredth perhaps?) Maybe there’s some missed treasure that is worth becoming a garbage picker for.

We hypnotize ourselves back into this overflowing heap of hurt, certain it may hold some secret we can apply to our futures!  

Wouldn’t that be a satisfying ending to our story?

But as you foist in one more time, that nosy neighbor Miss Reason peers from behind her blind of reality.  Her wicked green eye tells you this is a horrible idea that will yield nothing.  She shakes her head as nonsensical emotional urges compel you to foist the Sad Lady back into the thick of it.  There is only one solution to stopping this fruitless pursuit.  Ladies, get that trashcan off the curb!  It must be trucked away by newfound strength imbued by the freshness of a sparkling new existence.  Like discovering a new interesting scent of hand soap.  Lime and Cedar? I wonder what that’s like? I’ve gotta try it!  Invest in a new experience.  Each and every day!

Why obsess on the idea that the trashcan of your old relationship holds some treasure?  A tidbit you can string on a gold chain and still make use of.  Heck, others may even admire it!  No.  This is not right thinking.  This Leftat50 has dealt with a 24-year-dumpster situation and battled that first-year urge to dive in.  Knowing now those treasures were trash is such a relief.  It actually effects my day-to-day existence.

No longer combing through past experiences means we all get to constantly have new ones that we are striving for on our own!

How wonderful to reach up instead of digging down!! A mental adjustment that brings sunshine where there was pain.

We have the ability to laugh at the rain that will come into our psyches at times.  We know it is only temporary because we are in charge!  Gone is the dwelling on his unpredictable actions.  Desperately pawing through the pile of “used-to-bes” looking for a “now.”

Shiny and new is the name of the game.  A life with no snags.  No buttons missing.  Let go of the hand-me-downs of bad feelings about yourself.  They must be shredded and carted away!  Stop digging and start seeking.  It’s the only way to truly be alive.  If you stumble upon a new amazing candle scent, shoot it my way!  We are all in this together.

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!

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