Only a man that you have shared your life with can break your heart:💔 That’s bad enough. The insult to the injury is what I call “Relationship Alzheimers.” This is when they seemingly do not know why the relationship ended! Even if they were the ones cheating, withdrawing, not wanting therapy or any other possible solution to solve your couple problems. For them, it’s just over.
Being Leftat50 was bad enough. Then came the phrases to justify it to himself: “You’re the one who moved out, or filed for the divorce, or asked me to leave…” Yes, yes Stranger I was the one. This weird lady who keeps bothering you during this thing she is trying to understand. These little details about, “What the hell happened?” “Why couldn’t you just tell me you were cheating when you started cheating?” And the for-sure question he will never-ever answer:
“What did you think was going to happen when you made this decision to go outside our marriage?”
Like all brain deficits, there are signs you should look 👀 for when diagnosing their “Relationship Alzheimers.” They seem to have forgotten, “that vow thing.” They seem to have no memory of hundreds and hundreds of shared experiences that were truly meaningful. They do not seem to realize that as you have aged, so have they.
They don’t think anything needs to be “dragged out” and “Talked about over and over.”
The most hurtful thing my Ex said, was “I already told you why it wasn’t working for me. I’m not going to go over and over it.” The “Why” I was given was, “You know this hasn’t been working for awhile.” That’s it. That’s what I got.
And so it goes.
It’s tricky not to hate.😥
Sometimes I wish I could have Relationship Alzheimers. Oh, how many tears would not have been shed!!
Fortunately, I have a heart, a soul, and most of all, I made a commitment. That’s what one does when it’s worth it. When it’s treasured. Uh-oh. What I am I doing? Talking about it “over and over.”
My “thing” with “the Ex” is “over” and done with. I choose to remember the decades of my life that were good. The hateful memories only hurt me and I must let them go. Into that back part of my heart. The heart that the one man I trusted the most has decided doesn’t require pesky apologies and long-winded explanations.
And so it goes.✌
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!