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When “Through Thick and Thin” Wears Thin

When a long-term relationship ends, one is left to wonder, when did our “through thick and thin” wear thin? No one goes into a union with an end-date in mind. Then years go by and ugly things happen and suddenly, that endless “life-together-calendar” begun all of years ago, appears to have no more pages. No more Junes or Julys, 📅Novembers or Decembers. The entire day-planner of your couple hood somehow got filled to capacity and thrown in the recycle bin.

It’s sad to see it go. Even though the last several years of it are tear-stained. Those vows given into so freely became a trap for all of those women of a certain age who realized decades-in that the love was gone. His eyes 👀no longer lit up at the sight of you. He had set his sights on someone new. A “sweet, young, thang” that was going to make him forget the decades spent with the first wife.

His “first wife.”

None of us goes into a union expecting to be called “The First Wife.”

That’s a real shocker to get through. And what happens to us as a result? Well, we have no choice but to live with the label and go on. Even if we are in shock, or blinding rage, or simply heartbroken, there is no choice but to realize the thick and thin tumbled off your Coupledom years ago.

Love has left the building.

We’ve gotta get the heck out of there too. At the age of fifty, no less! Step out into your new moniker – “Single Woman.” That takes some getting used to. Even if the end was hideous, the single woman staring back in the mirror looks frightened. She has to buck herself up. Put herself out there.

Life has turned a corner.

Thick and thin is now our relationship with our single selves. At first, that’s a shock. But then it becomes a vow we feel overjoyed to renew. 😊We’ve put up with the dissipation of love and life as we knew it.  Until we realized that there was no way we could have gone on with things as they were.  Life was so heavy.  So were our hearts.  We deserve lightness again.

Laughter is asking us where we’ve been.

And as we adjust to being a single lady, we feel the need to have our days filled with joy, not conflict.  The pull we feel is to be happy and free.  We want to skip through fields of daisies, 🌼and kick up our heels!  We’re nobody’s “first wife!”  Smile. Smile now.  And go find Love, Life and Laughter.😆

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!


  1. It’s been 11 hrs since he left me for another. I’m 53 and I haven’t met my forever person.
    Where do I begin? I’m afraid I will die alone! And pissed!
    Lonely and still angry !

    • So sorry to hear. All of those emotions you are feeling are part of the journey. Feel them. You have a right to. You will know when you are ready to kick up your emotional heels and move on for good. No more loveless life.

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