When your marriage with a “J” is like cheese with a “Z.”
The end of a marriage is a lot like cheese with a “Z.” It tastes like cheese. It looks like cheese. It’s the same color as cheese. But it’s really basically a powder, a fake that through some manipulation, appears to be cheese.
The end of my marriage was much like that. On the outside, it looked like a marriage. Two people. They do things together, sit next to each other, and live together in the same house. Even share a car sometimes. But it’s not a real marriage and there’s nothing to add to it anymore that will make it a real one.
That’s when your marriage has become a “marrij.” It’s nothing like the real thing, but since it’s all we’ve got, we pretend it is.
We even pretend to enjoy it. The alternative is to admit that it is not at all what it seems. It’s kind of like that old saying, “If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s a duck.”
But in this case it’s not. It’s irony. A lookalike. A phony.
Yet we decide to keep shoving it down, pretending it will sustain us. But we only get hungrier and hungrier. Starved for that real thing we call, “Love.” The kind made with real ingredients.
So, if your marriage is becoming like “Cheez,” you need to face some facts. It won’t be a marriage. You know it and he knows it. If you want to live this way, you may continue to do so and call it a marrij. Just realize you will never feel satiated and will continue to hunger for the taste of real love.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!