Warning for all ladies of a certain age seeking a companion: Broken Man Cannot Be Fixed.
When out there looking for a mate, Leftat50’s are bound to come upon a type of man in droves: “The Recently Heart Broken Man.” They are out there with their phony smiles trying to lock eyes in the towel section of Bed, Bath and Beyond.
When they nod at you, do not nod back.
This time in our lives must be filled with the holiday joy of meeting new types of men. The “fa-la-la” of Love! It must not be filled with putting bandages over damaged men’s ginormous, obvious emotional , boo-boos and ignoring them. Do you find yourself gravitating toward the Man Who Has Been Abolished by Life at the office party? Turn around fast. You deserve fun, laughter, exciting, world-opening experiences this holiday season and all the year through.
Don’t be any man’s human crutch. Many, many middle-aged men are seeking just such a woman. “Can I lean on you for all of my needs?” “It’s a resounding’ No!”
We have been there, done that on too many occasions for our Exes. The payback for all of our sacrifices on their behalf was that there was no payback. An empty Christmas stocking. Too many “Silent Nights.” Choose not to live like that anymore.
But where are these normal guys?
Think of places to go where interesting, mentally healthy men might be. An art museum tour, an observatory, go where you enjoy what there is to offer and take a look-see.
We will know him when we see him because there will be no bad vibe to ignore from the get-go. Nada. Just the thought of a connection like that makes the heart go pitty-pat!
Not due to a Heart murmur or high blood pressure.
It doesn’t mean we are eager to get married again. Coupling up is not the end-all-be-all. It simply implies that we choose to honor ourselves from here on out. It’s time to let nice men open doors for us. When the Ex stopped doing that, I noticed but said nothing and adjusted. “It’s no big deal,” I told myself. “You can’t expect a man to hold doors open for you forever.” Guess, what ladies, you certainly can! An air of sophisticated confidence will project the qualities you appreciate in a man with all of his psyche still in tact. No glue required!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!