Today, you must nap. I demand it. It is actually National Napping Day! It was invented to help people adjust to daylight savings time. Do you nap? I am one of those people who never afforded myself the luxury. I just didn’t see myself as a “nap person.” To me, those people were lazy, weak, not as productive as I, etc. I had Busy Gal Syndrome. And I was certain that my productivity would falter if a laid down for a few minutes when I was tired.
I was, of course, proven wrong. Study after study of people of all cultures shows that napping regularly increases productivity. Still in all, I am not a huge napper.
I still have a case of Busy Gal Syndrome. You know, that crazy voice in your head that says you must get everything that you think you need to do done, or you will fall behind and tomorrow will be even worse.
And so, that is how we justify working ourselves into a tither. A crabby, short-tempered tither. Maybe we were cranky with people, but hey, it’s all done!
This is nonsense. If you are like me, at some point in life you became convinced that you must constantly be getting things done. Work things, home things, relationship things. All must quickly and efficiently be taken care of by you and only you. Certainly you could not do anything as crazy as give yourself a 20 minute break and do nothing.
Then, I was left. And I realized that some of the Busy Bee Syndrome I displayed was really a way to “have one over” on my Ex. If I wanted him to do some simple chore, I felt I couldn’t ask him to do it unless I had already done other chores to justify my question.
“I cleaned the house, do you think you could clear the gutters of leaves?” I would say, making a case as if I was going into a duel. It’s a little thing called Fight or Flight, I guess. The only thing was, my “fight” may have been a contributing factor to his “flight”. But that’s okay.
Two people are in a relationship and two people can play their roles until the play is over and the curtains are drawn instead of the swords.
Now, I am going to go take a nap. Because I’m a grown woman and I live alone and don’t have to justify my actions to anyone! Yay!
Ladies, take advantage of this amazing National Holiday! To me, this is better than Christmas (when I can never nap!)
I better stop blabbing about it and go do it.
Sweet Dreams. For 20 minutes or so.
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