Dear Emotionally Unavailable Men:
I am writing this letter to inform you that I will no longer have anything to do with you no matter how “free spirited” and “fun” you may seem to me at the start. I know that very quickly things will turn. They will turn into me accommodating you in ways that I shouldn’t because deep down I know that this relationship will never be a real one.
No planned out evenings of going to do Adult Things. No surprises from you of any sort ever (unless it’s of the “no-show” “no explanation why” kind). No meeting your relatives.
No future Together Assumptions, since we will never ever be considered a couple, and you’ll never see yourself as someone who’s “paired-up”.
This has to end. Now.
Because I need more. I deserve more.
For my part I will make a gigantic note to myself to state my needs from the get-go. No waiting for the Right Time. My needs deserve better.
And I take the blame for hiding them for fear you’d go.
Because of course you will go eventually, for you must see what’s behind every bend in the road.
Just writing this makes me stronger. I’m not fearing loneliness. Because I’ve been alone in this “whatever it’s been.” Alone even when I was with you.
My new mantra will be “State Your Needs Upfront.” If he goes, he goes. Life’s too short to waste another empty evening out.
I won’t wish you the best, as that may be too much of a commitment for you to say back to me in return.
So, with Dignity still somewhat in tact, I step away. From you and all Future Emotionally Unavailable Men.
Oh Happy Day!
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