The Uncomfortable Ones

So sadly, when you break up, you not only lose your significant other, you lose about half of your friends. Your good friends. They may stop calling because of the Guilt Factor, i.e. they are still friends with him and they are afraid you will ask about this and they won’t know what to say. Or they may, quite frankly, not want to hear about you or the break-up anymore. This may be because you were a part of the “Fun Couple” they went out for a drink with, or to catch a movie. And now you are no longer part of that couple. You are you and they are still a couple and it feels weird for them. Or perhaps, they’ve chosen Him in the breakup to remain friends with. Or him and his new girlfriend or wife. So, sometimes an entire faction of your used-to-be Social Circle drifts away. I refer to these people as The Uncomfortable Ones. You know them. They’re the ones you run into at the grocery store and have a truncated, uncomfortable conversation with.
You can’t really hate them or blame then, but it’s still weird. I got left, yeah, but does that really mean we can’t go see a movie anymore? It doesn’t mean I don’t have other things in my life to talk about, so, give me a call. I am not who I was, but I am still the same person. The Same Person, just changed by life. A shitty life thing. I’m not gonna bring it up at your dinner party. I have social skills. But you cannot force yourself back in to these peoples’ lives if they don’t want you. You just have to accept this and move on to the people you soon find out are your Real Friends. And when you think of it that way, it’s not so bad. Better you know from here on out who those people are, and lose the ones who are not.

We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!