Let’s talk about the care-giving chord. Here is the mate you cared for when sick, made dinner for, scheduled doctor appointments for, etc., for however many years. You shared a life. A life is made up of a million little moments, kind gestures, nurturing life-stuff. That’s why you were in that relationship. To care for, love, look after. That’s love. And when you are left, even though you are hurt, scared and angry, there is sometimes still that caregiver living inside. You may still find yourself wanting to do things for him. That’s a state you are still comfortable with on some level. That’s weird. This person who left me for someone else still needs me? You mean their new mate doesn’t fill every need/void that YOU filled? How sickly co-dependent needy awesome is that Yes! I do rock! This new person he left me for is deficient! I will step up to the plate and help him! Okay. You know how sick that is, even as you read it. Yet, you know your fingers are still itching to pick up the phone and make his dentist appointment for his cleaning. I am warning you…put down the phone. Put. It. Down.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!