Asking then doing is how we lived our lives for years. We “ran things by” our mate. That was how we decided what we were going to do that weekend, or if we really felt like going to that play, etc. Asking became a “thing” we did without thinking.
Now that you’ve been left, do you miss that aspect of being a couple?
My Ex and I seemed to share the same brain. We would constantly say the same thought out loud at the exact same time! We used to freak out, and then laugh about it. That aspect of our day-to-day coupleness ceased to exist a long time ago. But still, it was “a thing.” I’m sure you all had some “thing” similar, and it feels weird to no longer have a human sounding board. That is a hard one to get accustomed to.
Don’t worry, my Leftat50’s, this post is going someplace positive! This is not some “Monday Mourning.”
What I finally realized was by not having to ask and decide with the Ex, I am now doing many cool things I never would’ve done!
I have learned this amazing lesson since breaking up: In the absence of asking, there’s way more doing!
When I first was left, my heartbroken brain told me to stay still a lot. “Don’t try that, you could get hurt.” “Don’t go there, it’s near a bad part of town.” I’m sure you know the “drill of doubt.”
Eventually of course we get back to interacting with others. We nudge ourselves. We get bolder in our choice of New-Life experiences. Before you can say, “What if I get hurt doing that?” you are in an Upflying Yoga class! (See my “Diane Does” section for proof!)
I am positive that every gal reading this has something she is not acting on. Something she needs to “run by” herself. So start that conversation today. I guarantee the outcome will be a new experience that truly expands your Single Lady life!
Be fearless! Fear Less!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!