Today is National Selfie Day. Being a gal who likes to reflect, I have to ask my selfie-self an important question. What are the pictures I’m snapping these days really worth to my soul? Sorry. This is supposed to be one of those holidays that are all surfacey and fun, and here I have decided to go beneath the surface. Into the deep depths that the camera cannot capture. Don’t turn away my Leftat50s!” You will blur the shot of the “New You.”
For what do we see these days when we stare back at our selfies? When we look into our own eyes and notice how much we have changed since we were left?
Wow, huh? Just wow.
If you’re up to it, look at a regular photo of yourself that was taken right near the end of your relationship. Those painful months when you were in the throws of knowing your life was about to change in unprecedented ways. Do you remember her? Her tight eyes? Her taut smile? The loss of hope reflected in her stance?
Wow, huh? Just wow.
Now put that image away, and hold up your phone and take a selfie of yourself right now. Your Selfie Day selfie. The one you can’t wait to share. Compare those photos. There you will bear witness to your own transformation. Highlights that may pop out are your clear gaze, your genuine smile, your new hair style, the color that is back in your cheeks and the difference in your inner soul that is shining through. Why, we all could go on all day, couldn’t we?
How did these miracles happen? We were cheated on and walked out on, (perhaps even told we “weren’t lovable”) and now we somehow appear younger, lighter, more ALIVE. Alive in the love we rekindled with ourselves. It takes more than mastering a selfie stick to attain that evolution!
That is what a picture is worth. Perhaps it took a million tears and sixteen paper shredders, and some yelling, and signing of documents that tore our old lives apart forever and a million more tears to get here. That’s okay. It took what it took, to hand us back our selfie-worth.
Smile My Dears! You look great from all angles. Looking up and looking down. A sly glance, a giggle, a goofy face you will immediately delete. The many “best sides” of the new you. That is what a picture is worth: inside and out!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!