When I first moved to Los Angeles, I was afraid to step into the ocean. I was a midwestern fish-in-a-lake-girl. The ocean was a powerful force that went on without end. I was very fearful of stepping into that. Of getting my feet wet.
I’d stand on dry sand digging for shells. The ones I found were all battered by the sea. In order to find the really beautiful ones, I’d have to wade in.
I stayed ashore on my blanket trying to keep the ocean breeze from blowing sand in my eyes. I hung there, breathed the clean air, listened to the conversations of others. That was an okay thing to do, wasn’t it? Um,no. Who drives over an hour to the ocean to just sit in the sand?
The first few years of my post-marriage existence was a lot like that ocean-moment. Life was chaotic and it felt like so much crazy was going on beneath the surface it just wasn’t worth the risk to jump in. If you are feeling this way, know this: I have viewed the world through your eyes. Your daily life is feeling out of your control.
Like the ocean. Like your Ex-Life.
So where do we Leftat50’s get the courage?
My courage was found in realizing as I sat on that sand and dug, that the ocean came in anyway!
It filled up every single one of my holes whether I wanted it to or not. Hmmm, what a message. Perhaps that is what they mean by “The Song of the Sea.”
This is our lives now. The holes in your heart that you thought were forever to stay empty need be filled. Because life doesn’t stop when a marriage ends. Life is no longer about the cheater, the betrayer. Life is about how the gifts that are available fill you up.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!