With the passing of Mary Tyler Moore, I took to the internet to actually read all of the lyrics🎤to the iconic “Love Is All Around” theme song. And the second verse, that I’d never heard before, says, “How will you make it on your own? This world is awfully big, girl this time you’re all alone.” That really hit home for where I, and perhaps many of you Leftat50’s, are in that headspace right now.
After being left, as much as I wanted to immediately grasp my freedom and remake everything about myself to “show him,” there was also an overwhelming element of fear. “The world is awfully big, and I am all alone” I thought. But it’s all up to what I choose to do. At the time, especially that first, awful year, I chose to isolate and lick my wounds. But bit by bit, I started to feel the fear dissipate and I began to enjoy the process of being this, “Single Woman” who had to work and support herself on one hand, but could have anything she could put her wits to on the other, (slightly shaky) one.
“But it’s time you started living, It’s time you let someone else do some giving.” 😍
And once out “in the world” with my Single Gal cap on, I felt differently. And the next part of the Mary Tyler Moore Show theme song says, “But it’s time you started living, It’s time you let someone else do some giving.” And reading that recently really hit home. I had been the one doing all of the giving! No wonder I was too depleted to throw my cap in the air! I needed to allow other people into my life, even if I wasn’t sure exactly what that “life” was. When I did that, guess what I found out? No one knows exactly what their life is every moment of every day. Even if they are not divorced. No one knows!
Suddenly, I wasn’t some exception to some social rule that women in their 50’s should have it all figured out. In fact, I was part of “The Norm!”
Now these days, MTM’s iconic character has been brought back to all “Modern American Women’s” 💼 attention, and I don’t think that is a coincidence. I believe it is also resonating with all of us this week, on a gut level, that, “Love is all around, no need to waste it” on a man who doesn’t even want it any more!
“You just might make it after all.” For sure❣
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!