When there’s a magnificent rainstorm and you see it through your windows it’s one thing. But then when you step outside onto your porch, you need a second to get your bearings before you go out into the rain. With your keys in your hand and your umbrella opened.
When Left at 50, we need to take a New Life pause. We feel like we are leaving one storm and entering into another.
We don’t know.
We need to take a little time to get our bearings. There’s nothing wrong with that. If everyone is asking you, “What are you gonna do?” “Are you gonna divorce him?” “Sell the house and get your own place?” “What about all of your belongings?” And on and on. No stress there.
All of those things take time. Take as much of it as you need. Don’t let people push you into doing things when you know that you are still off-kilter. Take it slow. You were walking on a life treadmill with someone for decades. Suddenly, someone turned up the speed and now you feel like even though you are running as fast as you can, you just can’t keep up the pace. You don’t have to. Don’t bother accommodating someone else’s view of your reinvention.
Things you never even once thought would happen in your life have happened. We don’t all know exactly what each day will bring at first. What mood will come over us.
Maybe we can’t move as fast as the Ex would like us to. Don’t let him rush you into major life decisions you are not comfortable with. Find the right place to live, not just a place that’s “good enough for now.”
Give away the things you know you have no use for ever again. Keep the things you hold dear to your heart for reasons not fully understood. Don’t do anything hastily. This is all so stressful.
Until it isn’t. And trust me, that day will come. But for now, for this difficult day, just take a breath. Stop all of the “doing” and be still. The stillness holds the answers. You will regain your bearings through this process. I promise.
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!