Dancing with the stars just announced their new dancers and it got me to thinking about how long I continued dancing with my Ex.
Even after he walked out, there were months and months where we had to continue our communication in some way over the myriad of issues a big split entails.
Much like our ever-ending relationship, the break up had to be done His Way. Really Cheater? You’ll move out when you say so?
He would take forever to get back to me. PS it was a text-only one-way communique with him. No phone calls. Actually, no phone calls was FINE by me.
I of course was the Organized One. You know little things like selling the house, paying all home related expenses etc. so, it was great that he took weeks and weeks to just get back to me.
Was he attempting to infuriate me on purpose? Was this his way of still “Leading the dance?” I am convinced that it was. By divorcing me he was giving up the power he felt and the satisfaction he got from controlling my life.
He could go out and live life over in his new place with his new young thang but he still attempted to keep me from changing. “Stay the same Diane even though I’ve left you.”
Our relationship became insanely dysfunctional. I think that should be a new term!
It took quite a long time for him to abandon these attempts to control me from afar. To stop leading the dance long after the music had ended and the band had gone home.
This is all part of moving on, so if your Ex is still trying to engage in this controlling behavior, don’t let him. You’re in the lead now ladies, so dance away…from Him…forever!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!