Do you reminisce about your “heydays?” Back when you were stronger, more athletic, practiced the piano 8 hours a day, had visible eyebrows, stuff like that. This seems like a destructive habit to me. We all need to turn our thoughts around and start acting and thinking like we are in the midst of our heydays!
Why are we making ourselves glum? It may be a sneaky excuse not to try anything new. To stay exactly as we are. As if there are no new experiences or challenges “out there” for us Leftat50’s.
“I used to run all day on six hours of sleep.” “I used to bake my own bread, but goodbye carbs forever if I am to maintain my weight.” I used to know fluent French, but you know if you don’t use it, you lose it.” “Oh, well.”
Is that who we are now? A bunch of “Oh well-ers?” Ladies, I do not believe that one bit!
We may be a little rusty, or have different knees, or a tricky shoulder, or a bad ear, but these are things everybody ends up with.
Genetic predispositions are no excuse to stop living.
Myself, I require a lot of “maintenance” to keep myself in the “life loop.” Maybe a chiropractor appointment here and a skin-check by the Dermo there, and some overly expensive shoe inserts, well, in every pair of shoes I own, but I refuse to let that stop me.
I have watched some dear girlfriends with a few years on me, shall we say, “retract” from life. The list of things they “used to do all the time” gets longer every year, replaced by, um, nothing.
Since being Left at 50, God knows I went through the painful phase of just not being capable of doing anything new. I was a deer in the headlights of an unfamiliar existence thrust upon me by my Ex’s betrayal. My gusto was gone. Then I woke up one day and decided the rest of my life could not be stamped with his big “Disapproved” stamp.
Now every one of my Heydays is full of intentions that I fully expect to fulfill. So make your list and get going! Now here’s a helpful hint: every new activity may require “the right shoes.” And the only way not to use that old excuse is to go shoe shopping pronto!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!