When we speak of past relationships, we often think of “The one that got away.” That person from our past that we still sometimes wonder about. We wonder if our lives would’ve been happier if we’d ended up with that person. In reality, of course, there was a reason why that person “got away.” We let them go, or they just weren’t interested in us, or a myriad of reasons.
Now that you’ve been Leftat50, or thereabouts, I want you all to consider something. I want you to realize that YOU ARE THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY. If your marriage of decades fell apart, if you were cheated on and left to rebuild, if he just abandoned the relationship due to his own mid-life crisis, then I want you to look through the other side of the mirror. Look through it and realize this: If He hadn’t done whatever he did, you would still be part of that dysfunctional union. The one that existed just to exist. Those. Joyless. Days. And throughout each one of them, you’d be growing more miserable, panicked about the future, blaming yourself, silently fuming at him. Instead it all just blew up. Went away.
You couldn’t have made it going on like that. It was impossible!!! That was not a life!!! It was You, honoring a commitment that no longer existed.
So give yourself a hug and a smile today. Even if you’re having a rough day. I know they are not all easy, but at least now you are not tethered to that Rocky Relationship that was pulling you under. I know you felt that, because I did too. “How much longer can I stand this?” “How can I fix this, change this, change myself?” Well Ladies, you know that you cannot really fix another person. Especially if he doesn’t want to be fixed. And you know that now you are THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY and YOU DON’T NEED FIXING!!!
Thank God you got out of it and on with your life! Because isn’t UNCERTAINTY better than the CERTAINTY that the relationship was killing you? That your life was miserable? You knew you deserved better, didn’t you?
And now the person that can bestow upon you all of that joy and beauty and hope and positive attitude about the future is you!! You! The One Who Got Away! Just thinking about this makes me smile for you. I hope you will smile for yourself with this realization. Even if it’s a tough day. Even if the money is tight, or your living circumstances are less than ideal. Those seem like smaller concerns now that you’ve read this today, right? I hope so. I really do. Fly!
We all go through major life transitions when relationships end… Through this website, I will share my thoughts as I walk the path of “New-Self” discovery. It doesn’t matter which side of 50 you are on. The real question is, Are you ready to live life? To forge a Path of Your Own Making (For a change!)? Then stop dwelling over the What-Might-Have-Beens and join me. Share your thoughts here, comment on mine, and let’s do this together!
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